Couples Therapy Melbourne

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The aim of Couples Therapy Melbourne is to dismantle the negative patterns of interaction between the couple by removing the blame and illuminating the underlying feelings. When partners feel underlying hurt or rejection in the relationship, they can respond in ways that become unhelpful, so that their needs do not get met. Often, the way that they cope actually pushes their spouse away, rather than allowing them to understand how they feel. Therefore, the way that partners protect themselves from feeling hurt, can therefore push their partner away from understanding their needs and responding them. Therapy for couples in Melbourne unlocks defensive relationship patterns.

Become free from unhelpful relationship patterns in Couple's Therapy Melbourne

Overcome stuck patterns of interactions at Counselling Melbourne

Melbourne Couples Therapy 1A woman who feels her husband is not taking responsibility for house-hold chores will eventually feel fed up and berate him, so her husband feels not good enough and gives up, shutting her out by ignoring her requests to avoid feeling this way. She feels he does not care and he feels attacked, so they stay stuck in a rigid pattern of the blame game, finding fault in each other and unable to hear the other, or respond to  their needs. The couple remains stuck in a rigid pattern of interaction, that pushes each other away.

When couples protect themselves from feeling hurt, by becoming defensive, they evoke a defensive response in the other. Couples become stuck in these patterns,  so the underlying hurt remains unresolved. Therapy for couples Melbourne allows them to understand what underlies their partner's reactions. It allows couples to respond to each other, so couples can be free from defensive patterns of interaction.

Melbourne Couples Therapy 2Couple therapy in Melbourne provides a safe atmosphere for couples to open up to each other. This allows the couple to reach the real essence of how they feel. When they see what is really behind their behaviours, they understand each other and let down their emotional walls.

Melbourne’s Couples Therapy Services processes the hurt, allowing partners to get in touch with their feelings, so that they can express them in a way that gets heard. Instead of reacting, partners can feel more cohesive in themselves and secure in their marriage. Marriage counselling encourages spouses to take ownership for their part and see their partner more clearly, while becoming free from misinterpreting and misunderstanding each other. Relationship counselling allows couples get to the underlying feelings behind their actions so they can respond to each other's feelings.

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When couples stay stuck in self-perpetuating defensive behaviour, it can alert them that the couple need to see a couples therapist to avoid things escalating. Warning signs can be seen as criticizing each other, stonewalling or withdrawing from the marriage. If these relationship difficulties arise, it is time to seek couples therapy at Counselling in Melbourne.

What to expect in relationship therapy

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Couples counselling diffuses blame and locates the responsibility for change within the individual. Individuals do not always see the part they play in the marriage, since we all have unconscious blind spots that get in the way of seeing ourselves and the impact we have on others. These defensive reactions are caused by avoiding underlying emotions, which are triggered by their partner, and lead to destructive patterns of behaviour. If each partner overlooks their own part, and focuses on their partners, they avoid changing.

Melbourne's therapy for couples assists each partner to be aware of the unconscious part they play in their relationship and how they interact with each other, so they can resolve stuck patterns of interaction. Couples therapy dismantles defensive behaviour, helps couples express underlying hurt and attune to each other's feelings.

Build a stronger foundation for your relationship with our Melbourne Couple Therapy Service.

Counselling for couples integrates emotionally focused therapy, psychoanalysis, attachment therapy and systemic modalities into a coherent framework for treating couples. Our Melbourne couples therapist has postgraduate training couples and family therapy

Before you seek relationship counselling you can check the qualifications that your therapist has specifically in couples work. According to Professor Lawrie Moloney, a former senior researcher at the Australian Institute of Family Studies, more harm can be done by seeing a therapist without specific training in couples therapy, "Quite a few people are willing to work with couples or families without being adequately trained in working with more than one individual". For more details read

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