Couples Counselling Melbourne

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 Our Couples Counselling Melbourne is designed to dismantle the negative patterns of interaction that keep couples stuck. Partners are then able to see each other from new perspectives, while responding in a more attuned way to each other's actual needs, strengthening the connection and intimacy of the couple.

What to expect from Couples Counseling Melbourne

Counselling Melbourne provides guidance for couples who are unable to resolve conflict, avoid raising issues, are unable to repair relationship ruptures,  are stuck or cannot de-escalate distress.

 Melbourne Couples Counselling 1 When partners become triggered, they can easily react defensively, misinterpreting each other and reacting in ways that further hurt each other, to protect themselves from underlying hurt. Couples become stuck in these defensive positions to cope and have no way to get outside of these stuck positions on their own. They require the therapeutic holding and containment of a couples counselor to manage the intense emotional affect, in order to re-align the couple and help them to become unstuck from these defensive behaviors. Couples can then see each other more clearly, while understanding each other's real needs within the relationship, rather than reacting and misunderstanding each other.

Couples Counselling in Melbourne allows spouses to understand the part that they each contribute towards their problems, while rebuilding a stronger foundation for their relationship. Melbourne Couples Counselling enables couples to see each other in new ways, by connecting with the feelings underlying their partner's reactions.

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Expectations for the first couple counselling session:

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  • Couples therapy does not allow partners to blame each other by finding fault in the other, overcoming defensive cycles.
  • Couples will be encouraged to express their own experience within the relationship.
  • A safe therapeutic atmosphere is created so each partner has enough space to be heard.
  • Couples can get in touch with the feelings that are beneath their reactions, within the safe parameters of the therapeutic frame.
  • Defensive reactions are eliminated, so that underlying feelings can emerge, while containing underlying hurt so that each partner becomes better understood.
  • Couples slowdown from reacting and listen to what is really going on for each other, without defending.
  • Couples get in touch feelings, so they can express themselves in a way that encourages their spouse to listen, rather than react.
  • By dismantling the defensive patterns of interaction and creating new ways of responding, new ways of relating are eventually achieved.

 Therapy Couples 2After the first couple counselling session together, each partner will be invited to an individual session to understand the underlying areas that are impacted for each partner. After this initial assessment process, it will become clear how to work with the couple dynamic and the areas that affect each partner.  It is important to have enough couples sessions in order to work through areas of stuckness within the relationship.

Counselling Couples 3In order to interrupt these defensive patterns and form new ways of relating, a minimum of 6 to 10 relationship therapy sessions are usually required in order to begin this process. Changing these patterns with healthier responses can occur with more long term therapeutic work, for real gains to be achieved.

Our specialist counselling for couples in Melbourne integrates emotionally focused couples therapy, psychoanalysis, attachment therapy and systemic modalities into a coherent framework for treating couples.

Our Melbourne's couples counselling specialist has post graduate training in Couples and family therapy.

Before you seek couple's counselling in Melbourne, check the training that your therapist has specifically in couples work. According Professor to Lawrie Moloney, a former senior researcher at the Australian Institute of Family Studies, more harm can be done by seeing a therapist without specific training in couples counseling, "Quite a few people are willing to work with couples or families without being adequately trained in working with more than one individual". For more details read http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-08-25/concerns-over-unqualified-relationship-counsellors/8842954

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