Anger Management Counselling Melbourne

Save your relationships with Anger Management Counselling Melbourne

 Counselling Anger Management 1Individuals embark on anger management counselling Melbourne when acting hot-headed and flaring up easily. Unaware of their own rage, they often feel they are the victim of the mistreatment of others and are only defending themselves while being provoked. Reacting angrily allows them to get rid of unwanted feelings that become triggered. Many see others as causing them to feel a particular way. The more these feelings are externalised as being caused by others, the more they do not take ownership for being angry.

Caught in a whirlwind of intense emotions, these angry feelings get discharged onto those around them, as a way to rid themselves of underlying painful feelings. Reacting in the heat of the moment causes them to lose grip of one’s behaviour, while not seeing the impact on loved ones. Are you in denial of aggressive behaviour?

The more one pushes down uncomfortable feelings that remain buried, the more they can discharge them onto others, by finding fault in others or seeing things wrong in partners. Anger protects against underlying feelings such as, insecurity or feelings of inadequacy. One can be angry because they cannot get in touch with underlying feelings.

Anger management therapy helps to get in touch with the underlying feelings so that it dissolves the angry outbursts and resolves unexpressed needs or feelings. To manage anger, it is more important to work through the pain, than continue to have angry episodes. Anger management counselling in Melbourne allows individuals to understand what underlies outbursts of temper, so that they can effectively communicate how they really feel. Rather than pushing loved ones away, they can obtain a better understanding from those they love.

At Melbourne’s anger counselling, therapy works by processing one’s anger, by locating underlying feelings and managing them, so they feel less heated in the moment.  When uncomfortable feelings are contained within, they can express underlying hurt more easily and foster stronger relationships.

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 Anger Management Treatment Melbourne manages passive aggressive anger and couples conflict in relationships 

 Couples who cannot express healthy anger assertively can end up acting out in anger, by withdrawing from the marriage or acting spiteful to ward off hurt feelings towards their spouse.  Addictions and infidelity are indirect forms of anger that reflect unexpressed feelings. 

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The danger is when spouses give themselves up in the relationship, by pleasing the other, causing them to become bitter or resentful when their needs are not met. Passive forms of anger or resistance can be seen as not contributing in the marriage. In couple’s therapy, many don’t notice that something has upset them, until they act out their anger towards their partner, by giving up or not caring. Actively registering one’s anger is healthy. It allows us to take care of ourselves and handle situations, by telling us that something is not right.

Melbourne Anger Management Counselling 2 Melbourne’s Anger Management Counselling Services offers relationship counselling services for individuals who have destructive relationship patterns and offers couples counselling for volatile and hostile couples.  Attending counselling for couples conflict allows couples to de-escalate conflict, slow down and process what is underneath the defensive reactions and express underlying hurt feelings, fostering calmer conversations and listening to each other. Each partner can respond to the underlying feelings that don’t get expressed and are able to resolve all kinds of explosive arguments.

Counselling for anger offers an effective anger management strategy to assist spouses to express themselves, be able to deal with the conflict and overcome explosive reactions.

Abusive relationships

Partners can react abusively when they perceive they are being attacked by their spouse. Their anger protects them from feeling wounded by their spouse. Abusive partners react when their partner addresses their behavior, often interpreting it as criticism; feeling victimised, so they attack back, in order to ward off the underlying injury. They do not take ownership for the problem and protect themselves by blaming their partner, so that they back down from expressing themselves, causing them to feel stuck in an abusive relationship.

Therapy Anger Management 1 Individuals who rant and rave or become aggressive often have a fragmented sense of self and feel better when they hurt others, since it rids them of the pain, inflicting it on others. Jealousy or envy can cause them to feel deflated, so they set out to put others down, so they feel better, as a way to manage their fragile self-esteem. This can be the case with narcissistic personality disorder, where the pathological grandiose self inflates to ward off narcissistic injury. Melbourne’s anger counselling service deals with narcissistic behaviour.

Often, many who fall victims to these bad-tempered partners have difficulties being alone, are overly empathic or self-sacrificing, where they put up with abusive treatment, in the hopeful fantasy of seeking love to feel good about themselves. Eventually, these battered partners end up angry when they see the trail of destruction that these relationships have caused them. Many abused partners seek individual therapy to recover from abuse and rebuild their lives. Many want to understand why they're attracted to abusive relationships

Anger counselling in Melbourne allows one to obtain strategies for anger management and express healthy anger assertively. Managing anger allows one to move past self-destructive behaviours.

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