Personal Counselling and Individual Psychotherapy
Many ignore personal issues until they hit a rut, so they embark on personal counselling services. It can feel easier to avoid facing difficulties, rather than address them along the way. When feelings become too overwhelming, our natural resistance or defences set in, causing us to find unhealthy ways of coping to alleviate the pain, often worsening the depression or anxiety. Individual counselling or psychotherapy can target the underlying issues and resolve unwanted behavior.
Individuals with an impaired sense of self have often internalized that there is something wrong with them, feel worthless or feel harsh toward themselves. In actual fact, these feelings often belong to the past, but become relived in our everyday encounters, causing distress. When individuals believe that there is something wrong with them, they give up on life and hide themselves to avoid the feeling, often holding themselves back in life, rather than overcoming the feelings and exploring their real self. Once they face their feelings and let them go, they are no longer held back by them and can move forward with their actual life.
These feelings are often pushed down and become awakened during times of stress. When the feelings are too much, they can be projected outside of us, so that we do not feel this way.
Many who undertake individual counselling externalize their problems as being outside their control, so they feel powerless to change them. Often they feel it was the partner, boss or friend who made them angry. Many feel that if others change then the problems will go away. The way we protect ourselves from pain stops us seeing the part we contribute towards our problems, so we do not feel responsible for changing ourselves. Without Private Counselling Melbourne, individuals remain stuck in self-defeating behavior, feeling unable to change. Private counselling allows individuals to work through these feelings and modify them, so they can be put to rest and not have a debilitating impact on them.
Some feel that if they move countries, find a new partner or get a new job that their problems will go away. The truth is that you take your ‘self’ where ever you go; so the problems often repeat themselves, until you work on them.
According to James Masterson (1988) those with an impaired sense of 'self' end up blaming “life” rather than owning their problems, so they avoid facing them, becoming passive to taking responsibility for life's challenges, denying the impact that these problems have on their lives. Many are fearful of looking within to find themselves. Instead the 'false self'' takes over by defending against painful feelings and avoiding facing reality. When the 'real self' hides behind feelings, the' self' remains impaired and does not grow, but avoids painful feelings, with self-defeating behaviors, which enable them to further escape reality, rather than face it.
Why attend Private Counselling Melbourne
Counselling in Melbourne Services specialize in the Masterson therapeutic approach, which promotes the 'real self' to develop, so the self becomes strong enough to cope with emotions and overcome self-destructive behaviors. Our psychotherapist allows individuals to activate their real self, develop confidence, manage feelings, enable better coping mechanisms, stability and continuity in the self. Counselling allows individuals to see themselves and others more clearly, while feeling secure within themselves and relationships (Masterson, 1988).
As a Masterson therapist or psychotherapist, our therapist is specialised in working with the impaired self, to strengthen the self, so the self can face life challenges and better manage situations, by progressing the self to grow. Self cohesiveness creates a sense of stability in relationships, work, career, etc. It is by working on developing the self that one can move past areas that keep them stuck.
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