How to find happiness in the pursuit of the real self? Are you struggling to find happiness within yourself because you are so focused on what other people think about you, that you cannot live your real self? You may be living  according to everyone’s approval and living everyone’s life but your own, when you […]

What causes abuse in relationships? Have you ever lashed out towards your partner, out of character? You might be wondering what causes abuse in relationships. Did you ever say or do things that you regret? Have you ever wondered why you acted abusively in that moment?  You might ask yourself, ‘why does a nice person […]

Are you losing yourself in your relationship and falling out of love? Are you losing yourself for the sake of your relationship and falling out of love? Avoiding to express your real self, by pleasing others can mean that you fall out of love, by giving up aspects of yourself and not getting your needs […]

Why is it hard to change your behaviour in relationships? Are you stuck and want to change your behaviour in relationships, but do not know how? Many wonder why they remain stuck in hurting each other, when they can’t seem to stop themselves.  Some want desperately to change their behaviour but feel it is outside […]

Are you stuck in hostile and volatile conflict in your relationship? Are you stuck in hostile and volatile conflict in your relationship? Are you convinced that your partner is to blame for how you feel? Do you blame each other, wanting the other to change how they treat you? Do you constantly feel unworthy, no […]

Why are you feeling unloved in your relationship? Are you feeling unloved in your relationship? Did you think that you’d never find your soul mate, then all of sudden things changed? You were excited that you met the partner of your dreams, who dropped everything for you and put your needs first. Then, all of […]

What Are The Signs You’re Dealing With A Narcissist Many individuals feel a sense of bewilderment when dealing with a narcissist, they can begin a relationship feeling that they’ve met the person of their dreams, and then feel discarded and devalued by them, once things do not go their way. At the beginning of a […]

Are you pushing love away?  Are you pushing love away without realising it? What do you think is the real reason love does not work out? You would be surprised to hear the reason that love does not work out. Providing couples counselling to thousands of couples, I see how easily it is to sabotage […]

Loving someone with BPD Many walk on egg shells and struggle to love someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In loving someone with BPD, it is not easy to form a secure relationship. The relationships can be volatile, intense, and heated due to the overwhelming feelings of abandonment, jealously and insecurity. The person who is […]

Are you feeling weighed down? By coping in a manner to avoid uncomfortable emotions can actually lead to feeling weighed down. In fact depressive symptoms, such as, having  low mood , feeling lifeless,  flat, hopeless or  feeling down can be the manifestation of deeply rooted negative thoughts and feelings, which get projected onto life, so […]