Reasons why relationships fall apart Do you wonder the reasons why relationships fall apart in your life, despite how much effort you put into the relationship? Do you put all your hopes and dreams into a partner to feel good enough? Hoping for a partner to make you feel good enough can push loved […]

  Are you falling in love or caught in a blinding fantasy Are you falling in love? Like many of us, it can be easy to get caught up in the chemistry and excitement when falling in love. However, have you ever noticed that after the honeymoon phase you wondered what you saw in that […]

Are you sabotaging relationships by blaming others for how you feel? Are you sabotaging relationships by making your partner responsible for feeling bad about yourself, when these feelings get triggered? How to prevent sabotaging relationships by blaming others for how you feel? If you feel your partner makes you feel unworthy or abandoned, then it […]

     The Causes of Borderline Disorder of Self. What are the causes of Borderline disorder? Otto Kernberg shows that the causes of BPD are genetic factors or constitutional factors. James Masterson shows that the causes of Borderline Personality Disorder are to with the parent-infant dyad. Those who suffer a borderline disorder of self; are […]

Are you in a destructive relationship or projecting? How do we know if we are in a destructive relationship or projecting? Sometimes, we can feel our partner makes us feel worthless, unlovable or unwanted, when in actual fact these feelings could be triggered in us and get projected on to the partner, for causing us […]

  Are you sabotaging love? Are you sabotaging love? Have you ever wondered why you are not getting the love you want? Could you be accidentally sabotaging falling in love? Are you feeling exhausted from the effort of searching for your soul mate, but seem to feel alone or rejected all the time? Have you […]

How to stop making the wrong partner choice How to stop making the wrong  partner choice? Are your relationships not working out because you seem to choose the wrong partners who hurt you? Have you ever wondered why you end up choosing the wrong choice of partners, who become like the parent that hurt you? […]

  Are you stuck in an abusive relationship? Have you discovered that you are stuck in an abusive relationship? Have you noticed that you are drawn to partners who mistreat you? Do you seem to like the ones who do not want you, cannot commit, abandon you or abuse you? Could there be a reason […]

Understanding borderline behavior   It is not easy understanding borderline behavior. Those with with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can appear loving  or caring and then cut off for no apparent reason. They can react to perceived situations of abandonment. Often they can read into things that are not even there. They can become triggered to […]

How to deal with a relationship with a borderline partner    It can be very difficult to love someone with borderline personality disorder  (BPD) and know exactly how to deal with a relationship with a borderline lover. They can tell you to go away, when they actually want you there. So, the partner leaves and […]