Anger Management Counselling in Melbourne
Save your relationships with anger management counselling
Individuals embark on anger management counselling when acting hot-headed and flaring up easily. Unaware of their own rage, they often feel they are the victim of the mistreatment of others and are only defending themselves while being provoked. Reacting angrily allows them to get rid of unwanted feelings that become triggered. Many see others as causing them to feel a particular way. The more these feelings are externalised as being caused by others, the more angry one becomes.
Caught in a whirlwind of intense emotions, these angry feelings get discharged on to those around them, as a way to rid themselves of the emotions. Reacting in the heat of the moment causes them to lose grip of one’s behaviour, while not seeing the impact on loved ones.
The more one denies uncomfortable feelings that are buried, the more they project them onto others, by finding fault in others or seeing things wrong in partners. Anger protects against underlying feelings such as, insecurity or feelings of inadequacy. One can act angry because they cannot get in touch with underlying feelings.
To manage anger, it is more important to work through the pain, than continue to have angry episodes. Counselling in Melbourne’s anger management counselling allows individuals to understand what underlies outbursts of temper, so they can effectively communicate how they feel.
At Melbourne’s anger counselling, therapy works by processing one’s anger, by locating underlying feelings and managing them, so they feel less heated in the moment. When uncomfortable feelings are contained within, they can express underlying hurt more easily and foster stronger relationships.
Anger Counselling in Melbourne manages passive aggressive anger and couples conflict in relationships
Couples who cannot express healthy anger assertively can end up acting out in anger, by withdrawing from the marriage or acting spiteful to ward off hurt feelings towards their spouse. Addictions and infidelity are indirect forms of anger that reflect unexpressed feelings.
The danger is when spouses give themselves up in the relationship, by pleasing the other, causing them each to become bitter or resentful when their needs are not met. Passive forms of anger or resistance can be seen as not contributing in the marriage. In couple’s therapy, many don’t notice that something has upset them, until they act out their anger towards their partner, by giving up or not caring. Actively registering one’s anger is healthy. It allows us to take care of ourselves and handle situations, by telling us that something is not right. Melbourne’s counselling services offers relationship counselling services for individuals who have destructive relationship patterns and offers couples counselling for volatile and hostile couples. Seeing a Melbourne counsellor for couples conflict allows couples to de-escalate conflict, slow down and process what is underneath the defensive reactions and express underlying hurt feelings, fostering calmer conversations and listening to each other. Each partner can respond to the underlying feelings that don’t get expressed and are able to resolve all kinds of explosive arguments.
Marital or marriage counselling offers an effective anger management strategy to assist spouses to express themselves to deal with the conflict and overcome explosive reactions.
Partners can act abusively towards their partner, so they feel not so wounded by their spouse. Abusive partners react when their partner addresses their behavior, often interpreting it as criticism; feeling victimised, they attack back, in order to ward off the underlying injury. They do not take ownership for the problem and protect themselves by blaming their partner for the issue and cause them to feel intimidated, so they back down from a fight.
Individuals who rant and rave or become aggressive often have a fragmented sense of self and feel better when they hurt others, since it rids them of the pain, inflicting it on others. Jealousy or envy can cause them to feel deflated, so they set out to put others down, so they feel better, as a way to manage their fragile self-esteem. This can be the case with narcissistic abuse, where the pathological, grandiose self inflates to ward off narcissistic injury. Melbourne’s anger counselling service deals with narcissistic behaviour.
Often, many who fall victims to these bad-tempered partners have difficulties being alone, are overly empathic or self-sacrificing, where they put up with abusive treatment, in the hopeful fantasy of seeking love to feel good about themselves. Eventually, these battered partners end up angry when they see the trail of destruction that these relationships have caused them. Many abused partners seek individuals therapy to rebuild their lives.
Anger counselling in Melbourne allows you to obtain strategies for anger management and express healthy anger assertively. Anger management allows you to move past self-destructive behaviours.
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